Thursday, April 7, 2011

My pregnancy rant...

This has been bugging me for weeks now and I can't hold it in any longer. Why in the world do people think they can say whatever the heck they want about your body when you are pregnant? Would you EVER walk up to anyone and say "you are getting huge" or "wow, you are really putting on the weight" or "hey chubby" or "you actually look slender in that black outfit" or "look at your pooch" (that word makes me cringe! it's a baby, or a belly, or a bump people!) or say ANYTHING of the sorts unless you are just being hateful?! WHY in the world is it all of a sudden ok to say something to a woman who's body is changing faster than she can keep up. Yes, it is all for the baby, and whatever has to happen to keep this baby healthy I am willing to endure, as I think most women are, but it doesn't change anything about our insecurities, our fears, and us trying to cope with our ever-changing, growing, expanding, bodies. If you can't say something extra sweet to a pregnant girl because you feel like you are lying then keep your mouth shut! I am SO afraid that I am going to let it all out on some semi-innocent person who makes the next unknowingly rude comment. Yesterday my neighbor lady that I get the mail for made the comment about me "really putting on a lot of weight" I am more worried right now about not gaining enough than gaining too much but my body is still changing like crazy! So first of all it makes me so mad because I honestly know on one hand it's not even true. On the other hand, what if I had already gained 30 pounds by now? Why would you say that to someone either way? I don't care how big I get, I NEVER want to hear any negative body perspective opinions from anyone unless I ask. If I am having a day where I do feel like I am getting "huge" and not feeling the pregnancy glow those comments hurt even worse! And HELLO!!! I'm only gonna get bigger, then what? I will probably quit coming out of the house and just sit on the couch and eat twinkies all day! (Not really, I hate twinkies) But come on! Why would you want to insult someone and bring them down so much during such a happy time in their lives? I just don't understand why all of a sudden, being pregnant, makes people think that they can say whatever they want about your body. UUUGGGHHH! Has anyone else experienced this?

3 comments:

  1. Elizabeth, At 12 weeks pregnant I feel fat and miserable! I was just thinking today what a selfless act having a child is - we are sacrificing our bodies for this child that God has blessed us with. I completely understand your insecurities. I feel them everyday when I try on a pair of pants and they won't button. I think it can't be normal to gain this much weight in my first trimester! I feel like a lot of people make those comments because 1)They don't think before they speak and 2)They want to say something but don't know what to say and it comes out completely inappropriate.

    I was just looking at your FB profile picture and thinking what a cute baby bump you have! You have nothing to be insecure about. Pregnant women are beautiful (even if we feel fat for 40wks)!

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  2. I agree pregnant women are beautiful no matter what. I am sure you look great too. It's so sad what people can say and that it can do so much damage to your self-esteem! They don't even think twice about it and all it does is ring through my head over and over. Poor Travis is always doing damage control!

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  3. I think you look super cute. Maybe the next time someone comments about your weight, maybe you should comment right back about their weight, or their crows feet or their bald spot or their pigeon feet...I could go on. :)

    I do have to say though (and I have never been in your situation) that I would probably endure all the comments in the world if people would keep their hands OFF me. I don't know why people think bumps are community property. It is so creepy.

    I am sure I will be a nightmare if I am ever pregnant!

    Hang in there. You are amazing!

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